Updated: Apr 25, 2020
Weddings are stressful. Am I right? Believe it of not, I often find that the most stressful part of a wedding day (for most couples!) falls within the 30 minutes before the ceremony starts. That's the moment it starts to feel very real and is almost the 'waiting game' before you say 'I do.' While I there is no button we can press to stop all anxiety on a wedding day, there are a few steps you can take to help prevent some of those nerves before your wedding ceremony.
Do A First Look
There is so much hype in seeing your fiance for the first time when you walk down the aisle, that it often creates a lot of added stress. For that reason, I find that couples who do a first look are MUCH calmer in the moments prior to the ceremony. They already got their anxiety out and now feel at peace before walking down the aisle. Keep in mind that your fiance is the one person who can truly calm your nerves and put you at ease.
Recite Your Vows In Private
Reciting private vows in front of a hundred people is another reason many couples get nervous before the ceremony. But I get it. Who isn't afraid of public speaking?
If this sounds like you, consider reciting your vows privately during your first look. This can not only take away your stress, but can also be a really special moment for you two on the wedding day!
Smell Your Flowers
If you get anxious while you are lined up and ready to walk down the aisle, take a deep breath into your bouquet! You would be amazed by how this can take your mind off the ceremony and calm your nerves in those final moments. And did I mention that you will then associate that spell with your wedding day in the future?
Add Extra Time In Your Day
Another big stress on a wedding day comes down to timing; specifically, not having enough of it. I am going to warn you that everything will take longer that you expect and you need to plan for this. Don't be scared to add an extra 30 minutes of 'down' time prior to your ceremony. This will prevent you from stressing and will allow to relax for a few moments before saying 'I do.'
Be Picky About Who Walks You Down The Aisle
Yes, I know this can be a very tricky situation, but you need to do what feels right to you. If you don't, you are going to feel very uncomfortable and more anxious in the moments prior to your ceremony. With that being said, I want you to know that it's okay to be nontraditional here. We have had MANY brides either walk by themselves, with their moms, with both parents, with their Dad and Step Dad, with a father like figure, etc. There is no 'right' answer here, other than you should feel comfortable with your choice.